I got an inspiration to write this from
a blog that I just found out today. With the same title, I will write the version of
mine. I am high key agree with the title. Human, almost most of them do feel this
way. We tend to live by comparing ourselves to others about achievements,
marriage age, successful definition, and such. I do, still do until now.
However, it is exhausting to live by the haunted of others people live. These
are the examples :
1.
A is working in
private company while B is working in National company. A is very jealous to
the point she is very disappointed on herself. In the end, A feels depressed.
2.
A is married at
the age of 24 years old while B is still single. B got the burdens of society, especially
family, with the same questions every day like “When will you get married?
Where is your boyfriend? Still single in this economy?”
To
be honest, I relate to those examples so much. Imagine log in to Instagram, see
your friends’ feed about working in big company, winning competition, and even
get married. How would you react? Happy? Of course for them, I am happy. Could
not lie that I feel a tiny envy toward them. As you know, I am trying. Trying
to look for another job. I applied almost every day but it resulted nothing but
disappointment. Days ago, I was informed that I did not pass for a new work. I felt
down, not having a willing to work, and wanted to go home. Sigh.
I read that blog and realized that comparing ourselves to others is stupid thing and exhausting. The only person who can compete with is our past, not other people. Let them live in their way and let me live in my own way. There is no exact rule about being successful, the age marriage, or other stigma. It is just us, human, who like labeling ourselves.
I promise to myself that I will live my life
to the fullest. I will beat my own past and promise to be a better and reach my
reasonable dreams some day. Amin. Before finish this up, let me write her quote
on her blog, which is surprisingly I love so much.
“Ignore what
everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own
limits and outgrowing yourself to live your very own best life. You are not in
competition with anyone else. So focus on pushing to undo your past, not other
people.”
